Focus on the Real Thing

When you're used to do something, it becomes a routine--you hardly think about each step, you hardly weigh the options, you hardly anticipate the result. That's life. Or should I say that's how we're used to living our lives. But that shouldn't be the case.

Same goes for how we tend to look at the negative aspect of every situation--the cons more than the pros, the what-ifs rather than hoping for a favorable outcome. Little do we know that we are actually slimming the chances of it turning out the way we originally planned it to be--positive, favorable, a happy ending.

Someone recently shared this with me: Focus only on the real thing. Okay, let's cite her example: As a banker, she had to manually count a large amount of bills. The training involved slipping one fake bill and being able to detect it. It's unimaginable but manageable. You see if we get used to holding the real thing, we can almost always pinpoint the fake one.

This holds true with relationships, too. We get so caught up on the thought of: I will not be like this...I will not be like that. It's like psyching our psyches to concentrate on the action itself rather than avoiding it. It's like saying to a kid over and over not to do something, but he ends up doing it anyways. Why? It's because he got used to hearing the action word and not focusing on the word "not." Why can't we channel ourselves to think: I will be like this...I will be like that.

Well, I still got a lot to learn myself. I'm not actually the walk-the-talk type in this situation. To be honest, the purpose of this entry is to encourage myself to be something I want to be and not something I'm not supposed to be...